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5 ways you can handle your desires when single


Being single is not easy especially when your friends go on and on about how awesome their previous night was as you sit and sip your juice.

Before you start feeling shy and uncomfortable, having urges are quite normal and nothing to feel bad about.

Since it is a common thing, if you are single, you will need to learn how to handle your desires. And these desires are not gender-based, it goes without saying that we have all experienced them.

Being single and experiencing these desires is tough, to say the least. Here’s how you can cope if you find yourself in such a situation:

  • You don’t necessarily have to heed to these desires

Your mind is stronger than your desires. I know sometimes you just want someone to give you a 365 days experience but well you are single, aren’t you? You can distract yourself from thinking about things that turn you on by focusing on other things. If you must, go out and get some ice-cream or grocery shopping.

  • Accept that it is perfectly normal

you shouldn’t feel bad about having these desires as they are perfectly normal. I know you are wondering where they have come from considering you literally have nobody tuning you. Well, they are quite natural and your hormones or mind can be the cause. Don’t feel ashamed but accept that it is part of life and everyone has these desires.

  • Pleasure yourself

Controversial as it may be, you can opt to go this way. Find safe ways to pleasure yourself if the urge is too strong for you to handle. But don’t make this a habit as it can get very addictive and have an effect on sex life.

  • Self-discipline

All in all, you need to learn how to control these desires. Avoid things like watching adult movies, reading erotic books, or anything that might trigger the desires.

For most people this is easy but not for all. If you feel your desires building up, instead of focusing on the feeling, you can distract your mind with something else like watching TV, reading, or going for a walk or run.

  • Seek therapy

If it’s too severe and it’s affecting many aspects of your life, seek therapy. Sometimes sexual desires can be overpowering in that you are not able to control them.

If it starts affecting your work or social life it’s time to see a professional as you also risk having it affect your future relationships. Feel no shame about this as it’s very normal and seeking professional help is a great way to deal with this.